Community Policing Unit

Ridgefield Park Police Department

Domestic Violence

 
The Hidden Crime

As many as four million women in this country suffer some kind of violence at the hands of their husbands or boyfriends each year.

Very few will tell anyone- a friend, a relative, a neighbor, or the police.

Victims of domestic violence come from all walks of life, all cultures, all income groups, all ages, all religions. They share feelings of helplessness, isolation, guilt, fear, and shame.

Are You Abused?
Does the person you love...

• "Track" all of your time?
• Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
• Discourage your relationships with family and friends?
• Prevent you from working or attending school?
• Criticize you for little things?
• Anger easily when drinking or using other drugs?
• Control all finances and force you to account in detail for what you spend?
• Humiliate you in front of others?
• Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
• Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you or the children?
• Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?
• Threaten to hurt you or the children?
• Force you to have sex against your will?

  If you find yourself saying YES to any of these-
  it's time to get help!

Don't ignore the problem

• Talk to someone. Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy. Victims are often ashamed to let anyone know about intimate family problems. Go to a friend or neighbor, or call a domestic violence hotline to talk to a counselor.
• Plan ahead and know what you will do if you are attacked again. If you decide to leave, choose a place to go; set aside some money. Put important papers together- marriage license, birth certificates, checkbooks- in a place where you can get them quickly.
• Learn to think independently. Try to plan for the future and set goals for yourself.

If you are hurt, what can you do?

There are no easy answers, but there are things you can do to protect yourself.

• CALL THE POLICE. Assault, even by family members, is a crime. The police have information about shelters and other agencies that help victims of domestic violence.
• Leave, or have someone come and stay with you. Go to a battered women's shelter- call a crisis hotline in your community or a health center to locate a shelter. If you believe that you, and your children, are in danger- leave immediately.
• Contact your family court for information about a civil protection order that does not involve criminal charges or penalties.

Temporary restraining orders preventing your attacker from further abuse can be obtained at the Bergen County Courthouse on River Street, Hackensack, NJ from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m., Monday through Friday. During the evening and weekends a Municipal Court Judge, through the Police Department, can order a TRO.

Crime Prevention Tips From
National Crime Prevention Council
1700 K Street, NW, Second Floor
Washington, DC 20006-3817